ADHD is meant to be objectively impairing. Failing to achieve a personal goal like reading more or studying enough for a test does not qualify. The reality is that most people struggle to focus on boring things for which they have no clear incentive, or for which gratification is greatly delayed. This is an entirely ordinary part of the human condition, not a mental health diagnosis. But of course, by making it one, many people get something they want.

If a person is an adult who consistently struggles to maintain relationships across family, social, and professional life, there is likely something wrong. Or, more to the point, something he or she is doing that makes the relationships difficult to sustain. Let’s explore the personality traits and behaviors that commonly lead to the collapse of relationships.

Autism is, arguably, one of the most overdiagnosed mental health conditions in America today. About 90% of the time I come across a client with this diagnosis, it is incorrect. I do have a few ideas and opinions about why this is happening. Some of them may appear controversial, but we seem to be at a point now where a long, hard look at what’s going on with autism is warranted.